Thursday, May 21, 2009

Reasons, Seasons and Lifetimes

They say people come into our life for reasons, seasons or lifetimes.

At what point do you know for which exact purpose they have come into your life?

Most of the times it’s when they go away or move into the periphery is when you realise their sole purpose for walking with you the miles they did.

I have had people come and go, some have moved to the corners of my life standing as pillars to keep my sanity intact. They hardly meet, hardly come to the centre to crowd me, they are just there holding on to themselves and me. Some have been the centre of attraction for a bit and melted soon enough. There have been some who walked in and out like a whirlwind.

They are the ones who have taught me the most.

I love these lyrics by Green Day -

"Another turning point;
a fork stuck in the road.
Time grabs you by the wrist;
directs you where to go.
So make the best of this test
and don't ask why.
It's not a question
but a lesson learned in time.
It's something unpredictable
but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life."

Every now and then you reach a turning point in your life when you need to let go of the past, hold on to something new and move on. That’s life, and the sooner you accept it the happier you are!

I’ve learnt some lessons through time –

People come and go. Nothing and no one lasts forever. What lasts is what you felt for them. What is left are memories that are yours and only yours.
What is important is the time you spend being happy with them. Time spent not worrying about the future but cherishing moments that might never come again.
We only live a number of weekends, a fewer years ... think about it, it isn’t that much.

I have learnt that loving yourself is the greatest gift you can give yourself. (I might sound a tad bit narcissistic here) But believe me, it’s the greatest favour you can do to yourself. No one can or will dare to strip your vulnerability and leave it to crumble. I have been there and it’s not a nice place. The moment I decided to love myself more than anyone or anything, nothing and no one has come close to making me feel angry, vulnerable or defenceless.

I have learnt to give unconditionally and completely to everything and everyone I love for whatever time they are in my sphere.

I have learnt to let go.

I have learnt that there is something around me, God or whatever we may call it that protects me. It makes me learn lessons time and time again until they are embedded so deep in my heart that they force me to change for the better.

I have learnt to say more I love you’s, more thank you’s and even more sorry’s.

I have learnt that regret is not something I want live with.

I have learnt that today is a happy day. Today I am alive. Today will never come back. The people in my today might be gone in my tomorrow.

“So take the photographs
and still frames in your mind.
Hang it on a shelf
In good health and good time.
Tattoos of memories
and dead skin on trial.
For what it's worth,
it was worth all the while.
It's something unpredictable
but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life.”

Every day I live a reason, a season and a lifetime simultaneously. I have come to love that about being here and living this life.

I am having the time of my life!

I hope you are too!

: )


RAY said...

Nice...I like your composure, your maturity and your foresight...and I like the fact that you have learnt to disengage...and have no regrets...keep it up!

Aarti said...

Sometimes all we need is to look inside ourselves for the truth. What we tend to lack is the will to believe in ourselves and know that happiness is a state of mind and you will be as happy as you want to be, you just need to want it bad enough.
I couldnt agree more with your post and think its an amazing insight and something we should all live by.
We should never let anything or anyone get bigger than us (in the least egoistical kind of way), as once that happens we run after smaller things and forget the big picture which relates to our health, well-being and peace of mind.

Thanks for this post, its helped give me that extra push to be who I am :)

Aanchal said...

im glad it helped aarti... just hang in there... :)

Sheetal said...

I think we all try to reach this juncture....we try we fail...we try times we give up. But I honestly feel, that the one who can actually learn & master the art of loving himself/ herself is the one who has at least 1 person in life who loves him/her totally, completely & unconditionally....think about it:)


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